Agence France-PresseDecember 12, 2013 16:31
It took several years after his father's kidnapping in Baghdad, but at a certain point -- he cannot remember precisely when -- Ali al-Saffar began referring to him in the past tense.
He says he no longer craves justice, and that the anger has largely faded. All he wants is his father's body, to give him a proper burial, to have some closure.
"Is it 'My dad is' or 'My dad was?'" asked Ali, speaking by telephone from London.
"I honestly don't know. Now, I've started to say 'was'. But it took a long time to get to that point."